tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10611988.post4178638271499558100..comments2023-12-08T00:54:27.168+11:00Comments on Sorrow at Sills Bend: The Ruleslucy tartanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09244574932248425378noreply@blogger.comBlogger23125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10611988.post-73607845691991751182011-04-26T23:15:57.600+10:002011-04-26T23:15:57.600+10:00Good luck. I think birth is hideous and had as ma...Good luck. I think birth is hideous and had as many drugs as possible although I had initially thought I was a natural birth queen. Ha! No way would I be rummaging about inside either, never know what you might find! And after 8 years of being a mother I have developed a sneaky respect for crappy plastic toys - sometimes a hideous, cynical, vile bit of plastic becomes imbued by your child Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10611988.post-1730351975366485142011-04-21T04:08:53.087+10:002011-04-21T04:08:53.087+10:00i've been thinking about you these past few we...i've been thinking about you these past few weeks as you approach this remarkable event! I want to wish you all the best! I'm sure your approach of not having hard and fast expectations is the best approach to have. All you want is to get them out safely - it will be a transformative and life-changing day however it turns out, but this isn't the most important thing! ah it's just melihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10026675747253438229noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10611988.post-70840656271105306292011-04-08T11:31:36.747+10:002011-04-08T11:31:36.747+10:00I don't know the first thing about births or b...I don't know the first thing about births or babies, Laura, but I do know a bit about working at Macca's: enough to recommend you push it from "recommend against" into "forbid" category.<br />And if he does work there or at a similar joint for high school pocket money, he should be told to immediately join the union and refuse to play the "clock off and unload theLiamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12555047234877038028noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10611988.post-7217279380424957672011-04-08T07:42:13.432+10:002011-04-08T07:42:13.432+10:00As a Rabbit/earth sign myself I know your son is g...As a Rabbit/earth sign myself I know your son is going to be brilliant :)<br /><br />I love your list of forbidden things. You both are going to be amazing parents and Baz the perfect god-less parent. <br /><br />So much attention is placed on just one day, a bit like a wedding, it's the rest of your life that matters. The most amazing thing about modern birth in the Western World is the GShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11963643826578219126noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10611988.post-67404568506025652072011-04-08T05:56:59.286+10:002011-04-08T05:56:59.286+10:00and you are lucky not to have, as I have, a taurus...and you are lucky not to have, as I have, a taurus in the year of the ox. she's a cow. 0r 38. possibly it's her Gen XY whatever.<br /><br />Parents who create beautiful nursery (and yours is) will raise beautiful baby in it.<br />I had 3 children without any 'plan' or education and the one thing I do know is that none were anything like the births depicted in any popular iODynehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06394268529143990889noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10611988.post-57759221130805991742011-04-07T17:09:31.028+10:002011-04-07T17:09:31.028+10:00Just wanted to add here that I have brought my son...Just wanted to add here that I have brought my son up on nearly all of those rules (and yes, do tell the rellies because nearly all the crapy plastic things come from well-meaning people), and despite his father letting him do exactly the opposite one weekend a fortnight (he has a tv in his other bedroom!), my side is winning and he's turning out to be a pretty fabulous human. Should be much Ampersand Duckhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12245377686193859488noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10611988.post-52473747105523026132011-04-07T15:13:40.938+10:002011-04-07T15:13:40.938+10:00After having to wait for over an hour for hubby to...After having to wait for over an hour for hubby to turn up with the bag I'd almost put into the car that morning, but didn't because I told myself not to be silly, I don't think it is a bad thing to have your bag with you. That will ensure that you don't need it.<br /><br />Midwives come in all shapes from fantastically helpful to downright rude and what the hell are you doing in Mindyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10634135486127575735noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10611988.post-20952208915302508872011-04-07T13:01:40.506+10:002011-04-07T13:01:40.506+10:00Oh god I think I am in the 65th centile round the ...Oh god I think I am in the 65th centile round the gut too. <br /><br />Can there be any exceptions apart from Lego for the plastic toys? What if I buy my little nephew one of these?<br /><br /> http://shop.mattel.com/product/index.jsp?productId=11189063<br /><br />The nursery looks absolutely beautiful. I wanted a crib like that for Ruby but ended up with a post-colonial thing in hideous cheap Meredith Joneshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00977264379899180896noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10611988.post-43444829820723192382011-04-07T11:02:59.583+10:002011-04-07T11:02:59.583+10:00Plastic tat: I too have the same distaste and all ...Plastic tat: I too have the same distaste and all I want is for young Blobby to have beautiful handmade artisanal wooden and cloth toys I've bought off Etsy.<br /><br />However, watching many of my friends have children has convinced me that plastic tat is unavoidable, so I am simply endeavouring not to buy any myself and trying to keep numbers under control.<br /><br />And given that my Kate Hhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05133832555428002204noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10611988.post-84764735077669393132011-04-06T22:57:51.589+10:002011-04-06T22:57:51.589+10:00Birth is a major event. It is no wonder people get...Birth is a major event. It is no wonder people get pretty passionate about it. And a lot of people wish they could have done things differently after the event, so they go all 'born again/fanatical' on others, trying to make them have the birth they wish they got.<br /><br />Good advice I got: when you really think you can't stand it any more, there is probably only about 20 minutes seepinoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10611988.post-16227733095670040382011-04-06T22:53:09.477+10:002011-04-06T22:53:09.477+10:00"JahTeh, exactly! Or I'd be worried I'..."JahTeh, exactly! Or I'd be worried I'd pull out some wrong body part. It's birth, not a lucky dip."<br /><br />My thoughts exactly. "Gah, what an ugly... Oh shit, this is my gall bladder."<br /><br />Very excited in the countdown to the big birth-day!Helenhttp://castironbalcony.media2.orgnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10611988.post-73797120675763941242011-04-06T22:11:20.992+10:002011-04-06T22:11:20.992+10:00You never know, Basil might be a Taurus Cat as wel...You never know, Basil might be a Taurus Cat as well. He sounds as though he is being a bit of a midwife cat (as distinct from a nurse cat), or perhaps just bonding with your boy.Kerryn Goldsworthyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11270814460793882309noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10611988.post-3669053997405964312011-04-06T21:00:53.397+10:002011-04-06T21:00:53.397+10:00Exceptions shall be made for Lego, and I'm pre...Exceptions shall be made for Lego, and I'm pretty well aware that it's probably unattainable anyway. My aim is really just to keep plastic toys to an absolute minimum. Mindy I think I've told most people about the Rules. So I should be taking my hospital bag around with me now? ok. o_O<br /><br />Kerryn I think the Taurus Cat sounds a lot like Basil: artistic, innovative, snugglerlucy tartanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09244574932248425378noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10611988.post-1218750692805470542011-04-06T20:27:24.805+10:002011-04-06T20:27:24.805+10:00Congratulations on your pregnancy, L! I agree with...Congratulations on your pregnancy, L! I agree with a lot of what you wrote, but have to call you on one point: the plastic toys. I, too, wanted to avoid plastic before my daughter was born. Then I had a kid who had to spend a lot of time in hospital during the toddler years. Plastic toys are fantastic in that situation: they are durable and can be quickly sterilised and shared between kids. Now Agnesnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10611988.post-9933254971770227062011-04-06T20:01:38.535+10:002011-04-06T20:01:38.535+10:00Well I was wondering if you have told all rellies ...Well I was wondering if you have told all rellies and friends about the rules? How to deal with an inapproriate present is something that I wish I had sorted out well beforehand. <br /><br />You are certainly a lot better educated about this whole business than I was. If you are happy then it doesn't matter how your boy comes out. <br /><br />Make sure you have your blood test kit with you atMindyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10634135486127575735noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10611988.post-54922718911809799452011-04-06T19:32:48.619+10:002011-04-06T19:32:48.619+10:00I know nothing of childbirth but I can give you a ...I know nothing of childbirth but I can give you a hot tip about fusion astrology. This is something you really, really want to know. The Rabbit is one of those signs in Chinese astrology (there is one other, I think) that is sometimes called something else. The something else that it is sometimes (at least as often) called is a Cat. <br /><br />Suzanne White, who is, I believe, the person who Kerryn Goldsworthyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11270814460793882309noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10611988.post-56663881484873585292011-04-06T14:41:32.879+10:002011-04-06T14:41:32.879+10:00JahTeh, exactly! Or I'd be worried I'd pu...JahTeh, exactly! Or I'd be worried I'd pull out some wrong body part. It's birth, not a lucky dip.<br /><br />M-H, thank you, and thank you for reading, and commenting. I agree with you. Although I believe prefur is the fluff newborns have if they come out a tiny bit early - doctors call it lanugo or some such, but everyone knows it's really cat hair.lucy tartanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09244574932248425378noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10611988.post-57985640642051497802011-04-06T14:37:05.143+10:002011-04-06T14:37:05.143+10:00Mindy! I love advice! Do you have any more? I...Mindy! I love advice! Do you have any more? I've put the odd two and two together around the blogs lately and worked out that your pregnancies have been similar to mine. Seriously, anything else you think of would be welcome.<br /><br />Elephant's Child, one of the more sinister things about that pressure you talk about is how the specific theory of the day changes but the pressure lucy tartanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09244574932248425378noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10611988.post-9317544800981528162011-04-06T13:56:36.168+10:002011-04-06T13:56:36.168+10:00I recently discovered a school friend's blog a...I recently discovered a school friend's blog and was fascinated in a morbid kind of way by her post explaining how she hopes to have a maternal-assisted Caesarean (in a country hospital). <br /><br />I love the nursery.lucyhttp://pigpuppet.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10611988.post-45353667740715572192011-04-06T13:43:02.344+10:002011-04-06T13:43:02.344+10:00Lovely post Laura. Thanks. It is a shame that wome...Lovely post Laura. Thanks. It is a shame that women feel the need to take responsibility for things beyond their control, or to feel angry with themselves (or others) when the birth doesn't go as 'planned'. Before the birth of my first child I had a series of repeating nightmares about 'things going wrong'. Nothing did go seriously 'wrong', in any of my three M-Hhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18409916623998907121noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10611988.post-63767335389906458502011-04-06T13:26:17.200+10:002011-04-06T13:26:17.200+10:00I didn't get much flack over the caesarean sin...I didn't get much flack over the caesarean since baby and I were going downhill but the carryon about breastfeeding really did the mind in.<br /><br />Not in a million years would I grub around in my own abdomen looking for my kid. Knowing my habit of dropping important things would stop that.JahTehhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02007730071564639411noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10611988.post-67870293303322106832011-04-06T12:18:00.758+10:002011-04-06T12:18:00.758+10:00As a non mother to my eternal regret I have been h...As a non mother to my eternal regret I have been horrified for quite some time about the pressure we place on women to 'do it right' according to the theory of the day/proponent. Your philosophy of trusting your doctor and yourself sounds pretty good. Lots of luck in this exciting lead up to the birth of your boy.Elephant's Childhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06650565833097914052noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-10611988.post-75608535014423953612011-04-06T12:01:21.689+10:002011-04-06T12:01:21.689+10:00Curtains are just gorgeous. I wasn't going to ...Curtains are just gorgeous. I wasn't going to give any advice but I can't help myself - trust your body, and after the birth try to eat everything they give you or if you can't eat drink all the sugary drinks they provide because I nearly had a hypo after my second casear and it wasn't fun. If you feel shaky and sweaty ask for something, just in case. <br /><br />All the best.Mindyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10634135486127575735noreply@blogger.com